fatherhood 101 (yoxx's guide to fatherhood-part 1)
i still have a lot to learn from being a parent..barely a month has passed since our daughter was born and yet, all the theory's about parenting i have heard, never seem to work..or so it seems. being a psychologist, i have my own ideas and concepts on how i should rear my own daughter yet, for some strange reason, sometimes, i find myself going the opposite direction of my own ideas and concepts.
however, being a parent, i have began to develop and strenghten my ideas and concepts, ommiting those that don't work and developing those that work. what i share here are things i learned in being a father with my daughter, gabby and my wife, yve.
ss night when i was the one left to feed gabby at 2 in the morning, i couldn't help but blurt out the question: "ano ba anak?" a question uttered with some hint of anger and dismay at my baby's seeming restlessness. this brings me to the first lesson of parenthood i learned, always keep your temper in check, even when you are so sleepy and you cannot determine the cause of the baby's restlessness, just talk to baby in a nice way. ( i guess, at a young age,they can already understand what you are trying to say.)
they say that if your baby is cuddled and carried al the time, they end up not wanting to be placed in their crib or on the bed. i guess, the second lesson to be learned is here is cuddle your child as much as possible. why?you may ask. i think its pretty simple, the time will come when your child will no longer want to be cuddled and cared for. i don't want to wait for that time anymore.
i think, this next lesson is very important. take care of your baby and your wife. again, wifey, is responsible for bringing your bundle of joy to this world. (of course, she didn't do it by herself, unless she knows how to self-pollinate. :) ) she carried baby for nine months in her tummy, give her the care and attention she needs. i guess she deserves it. don't let her feel that you value the baby more than her.(which i guess is how they feel everytime the father pays more attention to the baby's needs.) she also needs your attention so the next time you feel like saying " i love you" to your baby, make sure that you say it to wifey first...things don't have to change betwen you and wifey.after all, you used to say it to her when you were still dating, right?
however, being a parent, i have began to develop and strenghten my ideas and concepts, ommiting those that don't work and developing those that work. what i share here are things i learned in being a father with my daughter, gabby and my wife, yve.
ss night when i was the one left to feed gabby at 2 in the morning, i couldn't help but blurt out the question: "ano ba anak?" a question uttered with some hint of anger and dismay at my baby's seeming restlessness. this brings me to the first lesson of parenthood i learned, always keep your temper in check, even when you are so sleepy and you cannot determine the cause of the baby's restlessness, just talk to baby in a nice way. ( i guess, at a young age,they can already understand what you are trying to say.)
they say that if your baby is cuddled and carried al the time, they end up not wanting to be placed in their crib or on the bed. i guess, the second lesson to be learned is here is cuddle your child as much as possible. why?you may ask. i think its pretty simple, the time will come when your child will no longer want to be cuddled and cared for. i don't want to wait for that time anymore.
i think, this next lesson is very important. take care of your baby and your wife. again, wifey, is responsible for bringing your bundle of joy to this world. (of course, she didn't do it by herself, unless she knows how to self-pollinate. :) ) she carried baby for nine months in her tummy, give her the care and attention she needs. i guess she deserves it. don't let her feel that you value the baby more than her.(which i guess is how they feel everytime the father pays more attention to the baby's needs.) she also needs your attention so the next time you feel like saying " i love you" to your baby, make sure that you say it to wifey first...things don't have to change betwen you and wifey.after all, you used to say it to her when you were still dating, right?
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